Papa said I love you but he never learned to show it
Papa said I love you but I never really felt it
Mama said we’re fine but I wasn’t optimistic
Mama said we’ll run but that was only geographic
Papa wanted us alone with no one in-between
Papa thought the world was dark, all devious and mean
Mama thought her strong enough to never let him hurt her
Mama cried alone when she didn’t think I saw her
Papa didn’t smile and wore jumpers inside out
Mama laughed a lot and always dressed up going out
Papa watched the sports and read the papers all day long
Papa never listened and never thought he could be wrong
Mama always had the friends and family by her side
Papa never trusted and pushed everyone aside
Papa could’ve had all the happiness in his life
Papa conjured insults behind the kindness of his wife
Mama often said when I was grown we’d move away
Mama was the reason that we made it through each day
Papa watched the neighbors come and go behind the window
Papa judged and criticized from his pulpit in the shadow
Mama always saw the good in others on the street
Mama tried to cover up his bitterness and conceit
Papa never knew that his every touch unnerved me
Papa never questioned how his actions could revile me
Mama often said that her husband was oppressing
Mama always said that my coming was her blessing
Papa tried to hide from all the issues of his childhood
Papa failed to notice how they crept into my childhood
Mama tried her best to be Mother, friend and father
Mama wouldn’t let him be the reason we would falter
Mama was a hurricane, a pioneer, a fighter
Papa was a frightened man, a loner, an outsider
Papa thought through silence he’d be able to control us
Papa couldn’t see that through his silence he had lost us
Mama once believed that when you married you must stay there
Mama learned with time there’s just so much you have to bear
Papa didn’t understand the consequence of actions
Papa never thought about the force of our reactions
Papa was just someone else who lived inside my house
Papa was just someone else- neither father, friend or spouse
Is this about you and your family, because if it is, then I have to say, I totally admire your mama. She is one heck of a strong woman 🙂
Thanks for your comments- it is indeed my mum and she really is a strong woman- Ireland is very much a nation of strong admirable women.
It’s my dream to visit Ireland someday. So here’s to my dream and to strong Irish women — especially your mom. 🙂
What a heartbreaking read and sadly, a reflection of what goes on behind too many closed doors. Courageous write.
Sometimes the release that comes with a piece like that feels like half the battle is won.